Ladies...is there a way to make ur first time sleeping with someone pleasurable?

im in love with my fiance. but i hear that smex is boring , or just painful for the first 5-10 times. that stinks. i hope thats not true. i really don't want him to be the only one enjoying himself in the room. so is this a true fact? do most women find it boring? do sum women want it everyday like men do? or are we not really like them .